To get past this issue, simply allow the thought to be present in your mind, but don’t act on it. Remember, the more you freak out about it, the more powerful your anxiety will become. Once you get past the head and “sh*tting fears”, you’re now ready to experience true pleasure.
You see back then, – when I was a first time bottom – we didn’t refer to casual encounters as “hookups” but instead, “tricking”. Anyway, when I was in my early 20’s, there really wasn’t a lot of information available about getting f*cked.If you are going to have anal sex, use a silicone based lubricant.This is particularly true if you are fairly new to anal and your hole has never been stretched out.If you decide against condoms, have some baby wipes nearby to act as a “just in case” for cleaning purposes.One of the main reasons many guys shy away from anal sex is because they can’t get past the sensation of feeling like they are going to poop.Some people bookmark this to their browser for quick reference. Rather than just laying back and letting your man do his thing, I have found it helpful to mentally rehearse the experience before he ever sticks it in.
Just sharing this as a kind of pre-tip before we dive in. Doing so allows you to anticipate potential pain and establish a pain threshold.
There are a number of reasons you might want to use a condom, particularly if it will be your first time.
This may seem counterintuitive but let me explain why.
It was only after one of my first boyfriends told me that I “needed to do a better job cleaning” that I realized I had lots more to learn.
Related: How to wipe your butthole the right way After that not so easy to hear bit of advice, I began a radical quest for knowledge on how to properly first time bottom, including what to do for preparation.
Who would have thought gay acceptance carried such perks? But if you are old school like me, it’s always nice to get useful advice from someone who has real world experience. When I first started receiving anal, I thought all you had to do was take a dump and wham – you were ready to get plowed.“Just lay back and let the guy do his thing,” I can remember thinking.