Black and dating
I’m sick of white people fetishizing black bodies when they’re laying up with them and then continuing to objectify black bodies as they lay bleeding in the streets due to a trigger happy racial profiling cop by justifying that officer’s actions.Or just completely ignoring the tragedy altogether.” To be clear, it’s not only whites who desire Black bodies in their beds without being outwardly concerned about what happens to similar Black bodies in the streets; many other races of men and women stand for anti-Blackness while laying with Black bodies too.
The fight that we are engaged in is debilitating and exhausting.Erasure of Black people’s lived experiences and our hopes for a better, brighter future.No Black person in this country, whether they be President of the United States, the homeless, or anyone in between, can live their lives believing in colorblindness.Because we all know that silence often means complicity, and we out here trying to get all-the-way free.In an essay published on titled, “Stop Having Sex With Black People,” Iesha Mason gets to the root of loving Black people radically (especially with regard to interracial dating and specifically whites who date Blacks).Is calling non-Black people who sleep with Black people but who do not stand up for causes that support Black lives extreme?
ran on Gawker earlier this month we received hundreds of comments and emails objecting to, agreeing with, or otherwise responding to Baker.
Therefore, any allusions to colorblindness from non-Black people is an exercise of a privilege that Black people can’t afford, and it’s bullsh*t.
But it is also our responsibility as Black people to pay close attention to the people we choose to date and form relationships with, and insist that those people stand in solidarity with us during our fight for true emancipation.
It is why, while I don’t object to interracial dating, I would require any non-Black person I date to be anti-racist, to do more than hint at not being racist or being “colorblind.” Author extraordinaire Marlon James does an excellent job of breaking down the difference between being non-racist and being anti-racist here; get into it.
And, while we’re at it, let’s recognize conversations about colorblindness as what they are—violent erasure.
Otherwise, non-Black people dating and mating with Black people are showing us that they can only commit to loving parts of us, but not all of us.