Dating a very successful man
Just because the guy is academically intelligent, it doesn’t automatically mean he will be socially or emotionally intelligent or know what it takes to be successful with women.academically intelligent men don’t know how to be successful with women.
The diagram below shows a hypothetical example of an “intelligent guy” who knows a LOT about mathematics, but doesn’t know much about what it takes to be successful with women, how to attract women and how to maintain a great relationship with a woman.Slenderbodies are associated with youth as the body’s metabolism slows as one grows older and, as such, could represent fertility for men, Frederick adds, while women pay attention to things that enhance their survival and that of their family.Cultural factors, of course, can greatly influence the extent of these preferences, he says.“Life is too short to settle for someone who doesn’t treat you well.Being kind and having good manners also helps.” Read: 10 things married couples won’t tell you The study may help people understand why the advertising industry (and society) puts so much emphasis on women being thin, “part of which is driven by pressure to attract a partner,” Frederick says.But what people want and what they actually get are two different things.
“This is a study of what determines the qualities one is looking for in a mate,” says Roger Friedland, visiting professor of media, culture and communication at New York University, who has studied the behavior of American college students.
There was one deviation: Older people care less about physical attraction, professional success or the potential to make a lot of money, the study found.
“I’d like to think that’s because, after a long life, they’ve learned that both looks and money can be fleeting but it’s the emotional connection you make with someone that sustains you,” says Abby Rodman, a psychotherapist in Boston.
The study was conducted by researchers at Chapman University in Orange, Calif., and is due to be published in the January 2016 edition of the peer-reviewed academic journal “Personality and Individual Differences.” The researchers interviewed people in an online questionnaire about qualities they find important in a partner.
Men with higher incomes showed stronger preferences for women with slender bodies, while women with higher incomes preferred men who had a steady income or made similar money, according to a new survey of 28,000 heterosexual men and women aged between 18 and 75.
Both genders reported nearly equally that being with someone physically attractive “to them” is important.