Dating an aloof man
Lastly, letting a man pursue doesn’t mean waiting around so long that you become impatient and borderline desperate.
Unfortunately, most relationships don’t progress this way.I know it’s exciting to like someone but you have to be patient in the process, and don’t feel like you have to make it happen. Don’t be so quick to assume that if this guy really liked you he would lock it down.If you’re dating a man who isn’t calling you, or texting you, or trying to advance the relationship then you’re not dating the right guy.But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person.I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life.When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked.
You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.
You can flirt with him, ask for his number, and even plan and pay for the date. Essentially, you can do what you feel will make you feel good. When you meet a guy that you think is great and you want to be in a serious relationship with him, but he’s dropping the ball it’s not your job to take the reigns.
When you meet a guy that you like but he’s not moving the relationship forward by calling, texting, or planning future dates, it’s natural to wonder, “What should I do?
“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness.
Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” – Psychology Today So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.
When you think about letting a man pursue you, consider letting him take the lead when it makes sense for him to do so.