Dating only once a month
Katie, who met her husband Matt when he was living in New York and she was still in college in Miami, was in a long distance relationship for the first eight months after meeting him in-person through family.
They continued to pursue each other across the country, despite some initial resistance on both sides.Tip: Seek out a credit card with an air mileage program. They Fit in Normal Life My friend and co-author of Jeff, talks about the importance of "doing laundry time" when you're in a long-distance union.Most have introductory offers with bonus miles that may grant you a free trip to see your S. Essentially, he feels it's important to have mundane chore time together since long-distance visits can often feel like you're on an extended vacation with your significant other.But, can a relationship that with distance grow into a solid relationship at home?Some say this is unlikely because you need "real" in-person time together to know if you're truly compatible, but a number of couples that started their relationships this way disagree.Jeffrey admits, "If it was 20 years ago, I don't know if just phone calls would have made it possible (for us to feel) as connected."Tip: If you don't have time for a long involved conversation over the phone or computer, consider sending a quick video message, instead of a voicemail, to let your partner know you're thinking about him or her.
They Had an End in Sight Dating across the country indefinitely can get taxing and it's easy to lose the momentum to keep building your relationship.
They regularly caught up over video chat, which helped build their connection.
According to Jeff, their long-distance flirtation was also fueled by cute (virtual) drawings, thumb kisses, and lots of relationship-themed emojis.
They're glad they took the risk to pursue each other, despite the distance.
Here's how they made it work: They Scheduled Regular Visits Scheduling regular visits, based on how much their schedules and bank accounts could handle, was a key factor in building a solid relationship for the couples I interviewed."Air miles are your best friend," according to Judy, who dated her partner while she was in New Jersey and her girlfriend was in Vancouver, Canada.
Without a long-term plan, the long distance couples I spoke with said that the relationship would’ve likely died because of a lack of direction, or stayed in a heightened unrealistic state, because of three or four-day vacation visits.