Dating rules in the lgbt community
You can be having a great conversation with a guy online, then, at the slightest suspicion that you are a total queen, you are ghosted. We just need to learn that some guys really are into Britney Spears while others really do love monster trucks, but that doesn't define what they can bring to dating or a relationship." —Jeremy, 22 "The biggest struggle of dating is the internal battle one undergoes when deciding if he wants an open, polyamorous, or monogamous relationship.I've been in all three relationships and neither was perfect, but all provided wonderful learning and growth opportunities.
Buzz Feed reached out to some of those gay twentysomethings to tell us some of their difficulties when trying to date.I understand that people are in very different places in their coming-out process when they are 20.Each guy is at a different place in their gay maturity.Queer men are varying shades of the rainbow." —Chris, 25 "I went from a 225-pound fat boy to a 145-pound athletic guy.As I lost more weight and gained muscle mass, I began to notice a change in my looks.Even though they're absolutely correct, maybe my idea of fun is not being single.
I know what 'wild and crazy fun' is out there, but I already got it out of my system. So yeah, I have every right to want to be with someone." —Tom, 22 "Every guy I've ever met that's my age just doesn't have their shit together.
But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.
The dynamic of two men being together IS DIFFERENT.
Though I respect that, I still want to find someone in a similar place of coming out.
It can feel like babysitting otherwise." —Eddie, 28 "The biggest struggle that I have while I'm dating is when a guy thinks that I'm ~too young~ to date.
When I step into a predominately heterosexual establishment, I feel like I have to be on guard and really careful with the people I choose to flirt with. HIV impacts everyone, no matter your sexuality, but it's still a hot button issue in the gay community, especially in dating.