Dating she is not right for me
For the last few months this has been by far the question I’ve received most often from readers.I had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.
If you have agreed to be exclusive, things are easy: you just need to ask him to take it down!
If you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, I feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.