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After the interaction, the participants were asked to rate how masculine or feminine they perceived their partner to be, followed by how sexually attracted to them they were. Men rated their responsive female partners as more feminine and therefore more attractive.Women, however, did not find their responsive partners particularly masculine or feminine – and worse yet, being responsive was marginally but negatively associated with how attractive they found their male partner.
With a background in social psychology, I can’t say I’m surprised that I’m not alone in my hypothesis.Terry is an unapologetic writer, artist, and aspiring social psychologist from the best city on the planet (otherwise known as Pittsburgh).Her interests include technology's affect on Generation Y, plastic dinosaurs, social interaction and snapback hats. Responsiveness (openness, empathy, kindness) are qualities that men innately look for in women.The study even shows that men find responsive, (therefore more feminine) women more sexually desirable.Therefore: Being responsive to your partner is wildly important to a successful relationship — both emotionally and in the bedroom — but is it attractive from the get-go?
At least for women, the answer seems to be a resounding “no.” The study paired up men and women with a “responsive” and “non-responsive” partner and had them interact (you know, like a first date).
Women I know, myself included, are often turned off by men that we see as effeminate, and unfortunately, because I think a lot of women see men who show their emotions right off the bat (responsive men) as feminine, we are less attracted to them.
You could argue that this is simply basic human instinct; women search for strong, masculine men because they are likely to gather the most food and protect the group or family the best, ensuring the female and her offspring’s survival.
Professor Gurit Birnbuam, lead researcher in this study, agrees.
Women may perceive [a responsive] person as inappropriately nice and manipulative (i.e., trying to obtain sexual favors) or eager to please, perhaps even as desperate, and therefore less sexually appealing.
Ladies, how many times have you whined to your girl friends about how long it’s taken for a guy to text you back after a first or second date? So, we have to admit that our alleged attraction to their evasive behavior is totally illogical.