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In the post-DOMA world, it’s all about getting hitched.

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So why do guys leap into all this unprotected sex after the boyfriend shingle gets hung on the door? While the research into more nuanced reasons is spotty, researchers suggest that unprotected sex is a way to communicate the very sense of trust, intimacy, closeness, and love that Genarro says he sought from his then-boyfriend.“It takes a very, very confident person to be able to sit down with his boyfriend/partner/spouse and have an open and honest conversation about what the rules of the relationship are,” he says. And having the smarts to know that relationships change and the rules may have to change with them.” Murray later found out that the boyfriend who infected him knew he was HIV-positive at the time. He takes ownership of the responsibility he had in protecting himself against the virus.After a long and painful road, he says he’s come to a place where he can empathize with what he imagines was his ex’s frame of mind, likely so fearful of rejection he couldn’t bring himself to disclose his HIV status.Ultimately, what needs to happen to help curb the spread of HIV between couples is communication: about HIV status, about testing, and about any recent potential exposure to the virus, as well as about sex outside the relationship.These are challenging tasks, Halkitis says, that gays haven’t necessarily been taught how to do.Genarro then came down with what he thought was strep throat, but turned out to be what’s called seroconversion illness. Genarro, a licensed massage therapist who has begun working at the AIDS Project New Haven, says he can’t be sure whether his ex ever knew he was HIV-positive during the relationship, but figures the guy might have had an inkling.

As to what factors caused Genarro to let his guard down about condom use, he recalls being in a vulnerable, insecure place at the time.

Another major problem lies in a paradox: Trust in a guy can backfire by creating a false sense of security when gays over-rely on that warm, fuzzy emotion as a proxy for more proactive measures of protection. D, MPH, a professor of applied psychology and public health at New York University, the emotions of trust and love are likely much more powerful than any rational decision making.

Research has shown that gay and bi guys who have greater trust in their partners are less likely to use condoms or to have been tested for HIV while in a relationship. And, unfortunately, many HIV prevention efforts optimistically expect a rational mind to withstand the heat of passion or the throes of love and still pragmatically insist on condoms.

The couple’s only discussion about HIV was a cursory affirmation that both were uninfected before they figured condoms weren’t necessary.

After a few months, he found out that his boyfriend was sleeping around and they split.

For the straight men, the most common reason is sexual abuse. I call this returning to the scene of the sexual crime. Sometimes guys just want quick, anonymous sex, so they seek out another guy because women don’t generally have quick, anonymous sex.