He has kids dating
A Jewish rocker with dreadlocks who wants to be with a Jewish woman. You can probably add other things to this list, including overweight women, older women, short men, and poor men.These are not choices, but they are groups that face longer odds because they don’t fit into many people’s preferences. The Jewish rocker could cut his hair to appeal to his demographic.
This brings up a larger point that I’ve wanted to make for a long time: People who are not “mainstream” have some very tough choices to make in dating.It’s a huge decision, a life-altering decision, and you shouldn’t do it if it makes you feel profoundly uncomfortable.Just know that the only options you have are to date women in their 30’s who state that they don’t want kids, to date women who are in their 40’s who may be cool with the idea of not having kids, or wait for women in their 50’s whose kids are already grown.I’m interested in dating women in their 30’s through early 40’s.I like children, but I am sure that I don’t want to be a parent.Steve, I’m running your email, not only because you’re a regular commenter, but because it follows last week’s question so neatly.
Steve’s a perfect example of a kind, relationship-oriented guy, who is extremely conscientious about the potential damage of two partners having different long-term goals.
The problem is when we refuse to budge and then complain how hard it is to find anyone.
It would be like me saying that I want to drive a car, but I’ll only drive a hot pink Lamborghini that I see being driven down my street. I don’t blame you, Steve, for not wanting to have kids.
Evan I just thought I would weigh in from the woman’s perspective.
About a year ago I dated a guy who was dear-god near perfection.
Not all women are looking for the One (or believe in the One for that matter), and not all women have considered the possibilities.