Onlinedating user names
Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?Until the conversation happens, I would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.We have a great time together and he calls every night to chat or say goodnight.I am really interested in him and I get the feeling that he feels the same way.In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.
Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.