Woman regrets dating someone spontaneous
As a screenwriter, I don’t know if you live in LA or not, but this is a town where people don’t grow up for a really long time.
Is it too much of an ask that I could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? I know Everest is high, but SOME people get up the damn thing, don’t they?There’s no way that I – or most men who don’t have their shit together – would willingly enter into a relationship with a woman who has so many other responsibilities, the way all moms do.At risk of making myself look bad, I once dated a single mom of a two-year-old.Single guys in their mid-30s who want to have their own biological kids in four years don’t.They want to take spontaneous romantic trips to Vegas, which is something that’s hard to do with four children of your own. I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career.
My life is happy, but I really would love to share it with someone…
Instead of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old guys who are in the exact same spot in life, who understand your predicament, who have obligations of their own, and who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets THEM.
You shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time. So I stay away from that for the same reasons that men stay away from women with children..
Maybe your ex shares custody and gives you weekends off, but I think we can all agree that women with four kids have less available time than women without four kids.
And if the greatest gift a woman can give a man is her time, who are men going to gravitate towards – the harried mom who has to manage four lunches, babysitters, soccer practice, and bedtime routines – or the one who is blissfully unencumbered by such essential responsibilities?
Ultimately, all I wanted from that single mom was to hook up, because that’s all I felt she could give me.